please unweave me now....

There are days I understand what overwhelming means in every cell of my body. Today is one of those days. And there are many more to come than I want to think about. So forgive the venting but sometimes it just has to come out...

My elderly parents can no longer take care of the house they are in (filthy is an understatement). We no longer have the means to pay for the house which we had to take over years ago due to poor money management by my dad. My father is slowly but surely losing cognitive ability. He is getting more frail physically, has more panic attacks, and simply cannot manage money at all. I cant tell if he does not want to admit or simply cannot understand that the time for grand schemes to make money is over. Its time to drastically scale back and stop doing so much. He understands we need to sell the house but he is convinced we have to buy him another one. Sigh.

My mom suffers from short term memory loss which has become quite bad in the last two years because she no longer has any social interaction with other people because dad wont let her drive anymore and they live way out in the country. She is deteriorating day by day. She needs to be in a situation where she is with other people on a daily basis. Dad is incapable of understanding that it is time to take care of her needs. He thinks he understands what to do, but truly he does not.

The worst part for me is that my father is angry, stubborn and pig-headed and will not listen to me because I am a woman. He treats me like my mother and consistently invalidates what I suggest and will only hear it if it comes from a man. A perfect product of patriarchy. I will be VERY happy when I have unwoven myself out of this mess.

ArticlesAnnette Wagner